Goodbye Help ...

Today is the first day of a new year for both boys. Max is the youngest in his new school and Joe the oldest.

This means I lose my home-help :(

It's been soooo lovely having them home (mostly). And having someone else do dinners for 6 weeks has been amazing.

But all good things come to an end and now it's back to Mum on duty. And lunchboxes ....

If you have children going back to school this week how does it feel?

Boomerang School lunches
So the routines of school and after-school activities are set to return for most people this week.
The dreaded lunchboxes become a permanent morning feature and for many parents so does the dread of opening it in the afternoon to discover most of the contents have made it home safely :(
If you do have a selective eater then it's common to find that your lunchboxes are not touched unless stuffed with favourites. And often those favourites lead you down a slippery path of less and less variety and more and more packaged food.
My advice is to worry less about the lunchbox and more about the other meals. Yes, lunch is very important and is probably about one third of what children consume during the day. And yes not eating well during the day can affect concentration, energy levels and mood.
However, for selective eaters just eating away from home is often challenging. Throw in all those distractions like play and the negative aspects of negotiating food in front of others and it often becomes overwhelming. So what to do?
1. Attempt a sustaining and filling breakfast.
2. Think nutrient dense afternoon tea and dinner.
3. Send what your child is happy to eat but rotate so each day is slightly different (even if it's just flavours of yoghurt or popcorn v crackers for the very selective).
4. Create as many bite-sized options as possible. It's far easier to eat a tiny sandwich or muffin than something large that seems overwhelming.
5. Worry less about what's getting eaten so our children worry less too.
6. Serve some of what you want eaten - if we don't serve fruit our child doesn't have the opportunity to eat fruit (if this is distressing for a very selective eater then obviously do not).
7. Work on strategies that gradually give your child the confidence they need around food away from home.

As Max is going through a period of really rapid growth he is often not able to eat enough at dinner to tide him through.

As he's very in-tune with his appetite and really does only eat because he's hungry it's very easy for me to know when to provide more.

As everyone who works with me knows I generally don't advocate for supper however, in this instance Max is eating a huge and well-balanced meal and then 3 hours later is finding himself hungry again.

I am not providing "snack" items I am whipping up a "mini-meal". Me being me, means that needs to be well-balanced and as best as practicable foods that he's not already had that day.

Here he has egg and cheese cooked together, half an avocado, some coleslaw and home-made mayo, corn, olives and a little apple chutney.

Does your child eat a huge meal and it just disappears as though you haven't cooked?!?!?

My goal has always been  to serve five different veg at each meal.

Why:
- Because I believe that variety helps to ensure we get a range of nutrients.
- It stops us getting bored (who wants steamed carrots every day!)
- It makes providing enough food really easy
- The more veg on offer the more likely variety will be eaten
- Veg are relatively inexpensive so filling up on them is cheap!

Why I don’t ask for help with my child’s fussy eating?
 
Parents are often reluctant to seek help when it comes to fussy eating. Why? There are many reasons but these are the most common (and our answers):

1. My child will grow out of it – sometimes yes, sometimes no.
 
2. I feel really guilty – we all carry so much guilt as parents. Leave that aside, we know that many kids are pre-disposed to selective eating so assigning “fault” is not productive. However, doing something about it makes us feel so much better.
 
3. I’ve tried everything and nothing works – there are often ways to approach eating with tried and tested strategies that do yield results.
 
4. My child is so selective nothing will work – we work with super selective eaters and do see progress.
 
5. My child has sensory issues – we do work with children who have additional needs and have good results.
 
6. I’ve been told by everyone it’s just a phase – many children do go through “fussy” stages. However, many are stuck with the same foods for years so it’s not a “phase”.
 
7. I don’t have the time or the energy – learning how to feed the kids takes away the stress, the frustrations and over time saves so much time.
 
8. I was fussy as a child so it’s not surprising my kids are – possibly. However, instead of accepting this as destiny why not intervene and teach them to eat well?
 
We can teach you to teach your kids to eat well.

We’re offering a complimentary consultation during May. Get in quick and arrange a call to evaluate your child’s situation and get a professional opinion on whether further action is necessary.

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This is so important when it comes to our selective eaters. Is trying a little bit on an ongoing basis worthwhile - absolutely yes. Can your child learn to like new foods. That's a resounding yes.

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